But romance to me means knowing me. Flowers are nice, but I love somthing I can plant. Today my husband booked me a massage. Last Valentines I got a set of knives. Last March someone stole my wallet – sitting in my car when my husband picked me up was my new Brighton wallet that matched my purse.

He’s really good. I won’t lie.

And that’s romantic to me.

Romance to me is when a man stares you in the eyes with passion reflecting in his. Going for a walk under the stars is very romantic. When a man I love pulls me towards him to kiss me when I least expect it ..that’s romantic to me.

Great blog. Congrats on Carolina Heat!

Maggie

Can’t wait to read “Carolina Heat.”

Re: romance, I once had a BF who was such a romantic! He’d leave wildflowers on my windowsill, homemade treats in my fridge, and create beautiful drawings that represented “us,” but he was too high-maintenance and not enough of a “protector” for my taste.

My DH is the strong, silent type, so showy romantic gestures are rare, but that’s why I married him. I don’t need gestures — I need stability. I need support. And as Melissa said, anything he does that makes my life easier is as romantic as wildflowers.

I like to think that taking out the garbage or checking the locks on windows and doors before we go to sleep are his ways of being romantic. It’s the thoughtful things he does and says every day that make him the best husband in the world. He’s usually at his most romantic when he’s not trying, when his love for me just springs up out of him like the most natural thing in the world. Like, this morning, he was halfway out the door when he turned to me to say, with cheerful conviction, “You’re going to sell your book today!”

Maybe he’s right. I should probably go take a shower in anticipation of The Call. I can’t negotiate an advance while wearing yesterday’s underwear.

Congratulations on your new book. Wishing you the best of sales.

Natalie Acres

Good luck!

This is such a great question and so subjective! My thoughts are that romance is all about what makes the other person feel they are being romanced (and not in a cheesy way). My husband often pours me a glass of wine or brings me a coke without asking if I want something. He’s simply thinking about me, and that’s romantic.

Overall, I think the most romantic gifts or gestures are ones where the other person gives without reason (birthday, V-day, etc.).

Thanks for your post!
Kelsey