August 15, 2015
I wrote an entire post and the stupid server deleted it instead of publishing it… sigh…
Life has been extremely busy here. When it rains it most decidedly pours. We recently took in my 17 month old great-nephew while his parents try to find a place to live on their own. At this time they are homeless and splitting time in their car and her mother’s small studio apartment. We are concerned about the little guy, however, since he is very delayed developmentally. My oldest daughter is studying to be a teacher for children with autism and has tested him. He tests out at only a 9-12 month old level in everything other than gross motor skills. Considering his mother was in special ed her entire school years I am afraid he has the same learning disabilities she has. they also do not interact with him at all which concerns me as well. So we are discussing the possibility of filing for permanent custody, which means an entire adjustment in everyone’s life to accommodate him. My oldest daughter and my son have stepped up and are caring for him–my son is especially enjoying having a little boy to hang out with, since he has two daughters and no sons. My chances of having that Empty Nest syndrome I hear so much about? Yeah–pretty sure that is not going to happen any time soon!
I also have a friend who recently discovered he is a father. For reasons of her own the mother chose not to share this information with him until his son was almost a year old. And now she is playing games with his heart and head, causing him some seriously bad moments and dark places that is hard to watch. He has a problem with depression as it is, and this has sent him into a tail spin of emotions that are causing him untold pain and unnecessary stress. It just makes me so angry and sad to see this and not be able to help him.
I just don’t understand how anyone can be given the incredible privilege of having a child and not appreciate it for the miracle it truly is. So many would give everything they have to hold a child of their own in their arms and will never experience that joy. And then there are those who have been given this ultimate gift and choose to ignore it or abandon it… A good friend of mine at work and his wife have tried to have a child of their own most of their married life. Recently they were blessed with not one but two beautiful children through adoption. The joy they have now is just incredibly satisfying to see. I am so happy for them as they enjoy these wonderful little ones, who now have bright futures thanks to the love and open-heartedness of these two people who just wanted to give all the love they had away to a child who needed them.
So we will continue to open our hearts and home to those who need it. I don’t know any other way to be actually. Its’ just what we do. Every day brings new challenges that we will deal with as they come. All I know is that I am watching two of my little ones dance around my living room to the theme song from Frozen and it makes me smile as they “Let It Go” over and over again. And DriDri wants to dress ” her baby” in one of her tutus so he can have the full experience of being a princess. How do you not laugh? ( Oh, and video–don’t think these moments aren’t documented!) And I am thankful for them and the joy they bring to MY life. Whatever it takes. That’s what we will do.