For the Love of Derby

It’s been a hectic spring/summer so far. Not only have I had three deadlines (I’m still working toward getting my August 1st deadline done), I finished up my 15 years in Guiding and learned I need surgery. Surgery is actually this coming week. Boo on needing it, but I’m glad it’s finally going to be done because I’ve been sick since February.

After a crazy year I decided since my daughter was finishing her Guiding career I would step down too. Just don’t have the time to commit to it any more, but that left a hole in my daughter’s schedule. She didn’t know what to do and she wanted to be involved in something.

She didn’t want to take music lessons, she didn’t want to take dance and horseback riding is a little out of budget at the moment.

Then she said she wanted to learn how to skate. Okay, that was fine, but when I Googled skating lessons I stumbled across the Killer Cupcakes Jr. LOCO roller derby. LOCO means its low contact. No body checking or pushing like in the adult full contact derby. The cupcakes said no skill was needed, they would show girls how to roller skate. They had loaner gear to borrow for a few practices. It was low commitment and it was for girls 9-17.

She said she wanted to try roller derby. She wanted to learn how to roller skate.

I honestly wasn’t very convinced. My daughter is a smart, bright, caring girl, but she is very hesitant to step out of shell and try new things.

We got to derby practice and talked to the coach Bride of Break n’ Spine (I love the derby names). She showed us the loaner gear and let Brianna to watch until she was ready to try. It was all low pressure. We headed up into the stands and watched. I reiterated that she shouldn’t feel pressured to try it. It was up to her. We watched girls fall and fall hard, but we watched them get back up.

Thirty minutes into watching she said “Mom, I want to try.”



It shocked me. I helped her gear up and she was off. I was worried she’d fall and that would be the end of it. She has a low tolerance for pain.

She fell. Hard.

I waited for the frustration and her saying Nope. This is it and I’m done. It didn’t come.

Three derby practices in, it still hasn’t come. There have been a few tears because falling on your butt over your knees does hurt, but she won’t give up. She loves it.

In the process of three practices she’s gained more confidence in herself than I’ve ever seen. She holds her head up higher and instead of dragging herself off the rolling skating rink when she falls, she’ll pound her fist into the floor, get up and do it again and again until she gets it.

Whatever, this change is …I’ll take it. I’ve never been prouder. She’s going after something. She’s working hard to make the team officially so she can scrimmage and play in bouts.

All the girls, even the seasoned girls fall and NO ONE makes fun of each other. They encourage each other on.

When Brianna had a frustrating fall a girl said “I’ve been doing this for two years and I still fall. Keep going.”

And she’s still going and I’m trying not to cry tears of joy when I watch her, because I’m so proud. I wish I had the gumption to pursue stuff I was afraid to do when I was younger.

She makes me extremely proud and even though I don’t skate (seriously I’m very klutzy), I’m a derby convert and the proudest derby Mom on the sidelines. I’m ready to cheer Rainbow Smash on when she finally has her first bout.



Born and raised on the outskirts of Toronto, Ontario, Amy fled the big city to settle down with the country boy of her dreams. When she’s not furiously typing away at her computer, she’s a mom to three wonderful children.

Life got in the way, and after the birth of her second child, she decided to pursue her dream of becoming a romance author.

You can find out more about Amy at her website.