August 20, 2016
Yes I know I have been absent with out leave and I am so sorry. Weekends are always busy and with everything going on in life I seem to find very little time for myself to write or do anything else.
Last month I told you all I was getting divorced. The soon-to-be-ex and I have talked quite a bit about how this will work and we are both in complete accord so that is a huge relief. We are going to sell the house and split everything down the middle. Pay off my truck so I can own it free and clear and take the same amount of money and pay down his Jeep payment so he has less money going out a month on it. We are going to pay off our younger daughter’s personal loan she had to take for college and my older daughter is going to switch cars with her dad. He is going to take her little Elantra that the tree fell on last summer and she is going to take my Santa Fe because it has fewer miles on it than the car she is giving to her dad. Since we are paying off the loan for her sister I will invest some money into the Santa Fe and get the AC fixed, a new steering wheel installed, and will get it painted. That way she has something nice to drive and her dad can park his new Jeep and drive the Elantra back and forth to work. She and I can share my Yukon for when she has to haul more than one child with her. And we are going to buy both of them new laptops. The rest of the money will go to help us each hopefully put a down payment on a new home and we can get on with our lives.
As for getting on with our lives…. I have, surprisingly enough, met a man who I am very interested in. We met by chance and hit it off right away. As we have talked over the past month or so we have come to realize there is something bigger than either of us pushing us together. We have the same interests and goals, the same religious beliefs–something I did not share with the soon-to-be-ex–the same taste in music and TV shows…. The list goes on. He lives across the country in another state on the East Coast, but we are planning on meeting soon to see where this relationship might go. We are both pretty excited about this!!
Now for some of you this may seem like it’s too soon for me to consider a relationship since I am still getting out of the one I have been in for over 30 years. However I don’t feel this way and here is why:
There has been nothing between my almost-ex and myself physically in over 20 years. He was not interested after the first couple of years together and then after his heart condition occurred it was completely out of the question even if he had changed his mind–which he never did. We have been basically platonic room mates these past few years and I am ready to move on and find someone who actually loves me and cares about me as a woman and a partner in life. This man seems to be the one I could have that life with. When I say we talk–we TALK. He had an extended weekend from work and he completely switched his schedule around to accommodate my time zone so we could be on my time zone. We have literally spent hours on the phone talking about everything and anything that comes to mind. We are planning on meeting next month and we shall see where this goes from there. I think we are going to have a great time!
So life goes on. One day at a time. I was not looking for a relationship at all so this has been a fun surprise. At my age having a second chance at love is pretty awesome so I am going to see where this takes me and enjoy the ride as long as I can! As for being AWOL–well, I will do my best to be here every week from now on but there is no guarantee–this coming weekend is my big camping trip with my girls so we will be in the mountains communing with nature and each other for four days! I will have lots of pictures and I am sure plenty of funny stories from the antics of my grand-daughter on her first camping trip so stay tuned! If not this weekend then for sure next weekend 🙂